Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Day 10: Meditation Challenge - Diana Lang, Enlightenment, and a Book Giveaway!


Welcome, to my 28-Meditation Challenge.

If you have joined us late, that is just fine. If you'd like to "officially" join in, simply leave a comment here that says, "I'm in!" and I will add you to the Challenge Roster. Or, send me an e-mail through the Contact Box at my website: awakenedliving.com. You may want to catch up by reading the previous posts. We are glad you are here!

Each day we come here, even if we have not meditated as we'd hoped, we begin again.
Start where you are ...

The Universe has a lovely sense of humor, don't you think?

Years ago, as an editor, I'd received a copy of Opening to Meditation: A Gentle Guided Approach by Diana Lang. I'd been asked to review it. Since the Challenge started, I'd been wondering if I should contact the author and invite her to participate. My inner radar said yes, so I did.

Within a few hours, Diana responded. "It's funny, Jan. Someone just forwarded me your 28 day meditation challenge and I thought to myself, what a good idea! How amazing that you wrote me, and yes, I would be honored to contribute."

I love when things like this happen! Diana didn't know me, I didn't know her, and the Universe (via a blogger) hooked us up. Whoever said the internet was not a spiritual tool?!


Diane is a yoga and meditation teacher from S. California. I'm happy to present a lovely greeting she sent to us about meditation. As you'll read, she challenges a widely held notion of "Nirvana" or enlightenment. I'll be eager to hear your thoughts on this.


Diana is cheering us on. She's also donated a copy of her fabulous book with accompanying CD, Opening to Meditation, to be given away to one lucky commentator. Thank you, Diana!

Read, enjoy, feel her loving support, and if you're feeling lucky or chatty, leave a comment and perhaps you'll be the winner!




Dear good meditators,
I am excited for you about your 28-day meditation challenge. Good for you for taking this on! It can change your life. The opportunity is magnificent and mysterious and powerful and life-changing. All you have to do is do it. I've been teaching meditation for over 30 years now and regularly have the privilege of initiating new meditators and one thing always come up: They feel like they are not doing it right.

So there are many books written about how to "do it" with all sorts of advice that are designed to guide you on your way, and that are wonderfully helpful, though sometimes conflicting. And what I want to tell you for sure is, that it is simple. You just need to show up. With a willing heart. That is all. In that little willingness a world will open to you that you may or may not recognize at the time. But it is still happening. Meditation grows you. Meditation is what we are at our center anyway. It is simply a returning to our selves.

I say this, "Self-Realization is simply realizing the Self". This is a powerful statement. It is so obvious and simple that we almost can't accept it. The state of Nirvana or bliss or enlightenment is simply acceptance—through and through—without exception, in deep understanding. And of course, it is a practice. Which is what you are doing on your challenge.

Meditate every day, in whatever way you will, and watch what unfolds.

Your mind will open.
Your heart will open.
Your world will open.

And it's a whole new world.

There's so much more to say, but these are some of my first thoughts.
I am so proud of you and your inevitable unfolding.

In support,
Diana Lang

Diana Lang is a spiritual teacher and counselor and the director/owner of LifeWorks - Center for Growth in Los Angeles, California. She has been teaching meditation and yoga since 1980 and conducts seminars in the United States and internationally on meditation, body awareness, stress reduction, and relationship development. www.dianalang.com


And, as always, I welcome your thoughts ... especially how you are doing with the Challenge.


Love and blessings,
Jan


Read on ...

From Where I Sit — Day 10, My Meditation Experience

I'll admit yesterday was not a great meditation day for me. Way too many writing deadlines and time at the computer. But, as I am learning, no judgment. Any time spent meditating is good. Useful. I did a little metta in the morning, then some at night, but fell asleep. I was exhausted. But today is another day and I begin again.

Recommended Resources:
Looking for a great, at-home way to learn meditation? Check out the Insight Meditation Kit: A Step-by-Step Course by Sharon Salzberg and Joseph Goldstein. This boxed kit includes a 230-page workbook with exercises, plus Cds and study cards. Developed by the founders of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA, this is an exceptional tool for beginning meditation. Available at amazon.com.


Inspiration:
"...you can work with restlessness by focusing the awareness on a single object such as the breath. Because a restless mind tends to hop from one object to another, this technique produces serenity by declining to feel the feelings of agitation. We can also make the mind more spacious by focusing on sounds or the whole body, for example. By making the container larger, we can often more skillfully hold and be aware of the energy of restlessness."
~Sharon Salzberg and Joseph Goldstein, Insight Meditation

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When you are done here, if you'd like a big laugh and an insider's view of what it's like to grow up Mennonite, leave the community, and come back in mid-life, join me at Awakened Living. I've got a special guest there today, too. Rhoda Janzen, author of the runaway hit, Mennonite in a Little Black Dress. And a book giveaway! Oh, by the way, Rhoda meditates. Perhaps that is why she is such a good writer. :-)


Stop on by. The conversation is rolling. I have to say, I haven't laughed this hard in a very long time. Where does she get this stuff?!!!

31 comments:

Jan January 12, 2010 10:27 AM  

Welcome, Agnes! I hope you find support and insight here. Feel free to peruse the previous posts to get caught up. Great info. there. Breathe on with ease!

One Woman's Journey January 12, 2010 11:06 AM  

Jan, I am not commenting but following you daily online. I do not miss a day meditating no more then I would miss a day eating. It has become a way of life.
I am ever thankful I found your site. Blessings to you and your continual encouragement

Jan January 12, 2010 11:57 AM  

Ernestine,
Thank you for letting me know this. It inspires me to know that people are reading everyone's wonderful comments here and finding peace because of them. And I am absolutely thrilled that meditation is now yours! Blessings to you....

Karen January 12, 2010 12:32 PM  

Jan-Thank you !
I appreciate all the information and insights.
This has been a wonderful experience, and really helps me to learn some new approaches and re-focus on my practice.
Woke up EARLY this morning-sat for 30 minutes. Wow !

Jan January 12, 2010 12:43 PM  

Karen,
You are most welcome. So glad to know that you finding ease with a practice. And getting up 1/2 hr. early to meditate, now THAT is something! Good for you. :-) Breathe on...

Jannie Funster January 12, 2010 12:50 PM  

Jan, your inner radar is bang-on, once again!! You sense such wonderful things before you bring them to fruition.

"All you have to do is do it!" Now, THAT is a wise wise voice on meditation. Thank you so much, Diana. Just like Nike's slogan, eh? Just do it. :)

I like that my skin looks so rosy after I meditate.

I'm heading to the floor now to meditate, I might get interrupted by the heating guy who is due any minute. If so, I will continue later.

Ahhhhh, here I go... to sweet blissful peace.

xo

Jan January 12, 2010 1:16 PM  

Lisa,
Thanks for popping in. I wondered if you might be familiar with Diana's work...

Jannie,
I hope you were able to get your meditation time in--without the interruption. But when we are busy folks, interruptions are a way of life so our practice must definitely be flexible. Our mindsets too. I am glad it's going well!

Caroline January 12, 2010 1:17 PM  

Yesterday was not too good for me either...but I did manage to stop many times during the day to "check in." Breathe and ground my energy.

I have noticed something really really big through this...

I am calming down. I will admit, my home isn't always happy. I tend to yell...a lot. I grew up in a family of yellers and that is how we got our way or got heard. Yelling is my fall back...and old friend that I hang on to. And I need to let this go. Especially since I now see my kids use this.
My goal is that through meditation I can calm down and notice the triggers that set me off. So I can stop the yelling. And, meditation is helping with this. I am finally beginning to "feel". I am noticing my heart rate increase and feel the tension in my body. So if I can just stop and just breathe into that...slowing down the pulse...relaxing my face...and be calm. Then I can gain control before all hell breaks loose.

I will say, this is a very difficult habit to break...it's been 40 years in the making. But I want to let this go. And the daily ritual of meditating is a welcomed new friend in my life.

Diana Lang January 12, 2010 1:18 PM  

From Diana,
Here is my latest meditation.

Happy New Year everyone~

FOR MP3
http://files.me.com/dwightclarke/ah5916.mp3

FOR WINDOWS
files.me.com/dianalang/izc2wt

Love, Diana

Stacy (Mama-Om) January 12, 2010 1:25 PM  

Thank you, again, for all these resources! I appreciated Diane's introduction. I would love to give her book to my mom.

I'm also following along but not always commenting. I didn't sit over the weekend and did mindful breathing in bed both nights. I just finished sitting for a half hour, this time, amazingly, with no interruptions from my kids. I try to take what I can get, and accept that sometimes my meditation is more "interactive" than others, but it is undeniably nourishing for me to have that uninterrupted time.

Carolynn January 12, 2010 1:35 PM  

Okay...that was simply beautiful. As I read Diane's invitation, I felt enveloped in a spirit of love & acceptance. My eyes even misted up a bit. That was truly lovely. Thank you Jan for following your instincts here and in all you do, and Diane for your gift.

I've mentioned before that I tend to go to a quiet place in nature when I meditate. For me, that's a secluded beach. One of the things I'll do that helps me focus on my breathing is concentrate on the waves as they roll in and crash on the sand. I breath in as the waves pull back and exhale as they rush onto shore. The sound of my own breathe mimics the sound of the waves crashing and the natural rythmn is easy to maintain.

Blessings,
Carolynn

Jan January 12, 2010 1:43 PM  

FOOD FOR THOUGHT, here fellow Participants? What do you think about Diana's statement: "Meditation is what we are at our center anyway. It is simply a returning to our selves."

...implying enlightenment is right where we are...now...Nirvana is here ...now...when we are in our center...when we ARE meditation.

I'm really loving this thought.

see you there! January 12, 2010 3:28 PM  

I continue to do my meditation in the evening. I use the very basic breathing technique. I'd like to explore walking meditation sometime. I can't imagine it because when I'm busy looking around me.

Thanks Diana for offering the book for the giveaway.

Darla

karmacoy January 12, 2010 3:36 PM  

Yes Jan, that statement strikes a chord in me! I believe it must be true.

I too, (like Carloine) have been feeling much calmer the past few days. And while I don't tend to yell, I do tend to swear!

Like a sailor sometimes!!!

Usually out of anger, frustration or irritability. And I too, have found that it's time to let go of this nasty habit...I don't like the way it makes me feel. And since I've started to feel calmer, I am NOTICING more quickly, when I become agitated and when I start swearing.

Ahh, the unexpected benefits of meditation. I was hoping it would bring me more peace... I just wasn't sure HOW that peace would manifest itself.

I'm also excited at the chance to win a copy of Diana's book!!

Wilma Ham January 12, 2010 3:53 PM  

Hi Jan.
I love this, my meditating on meditating. Having the freedom here to explore my take on meditation without judgment is wonderful.
I especially love the continuous reassurance that there is no right way.
I know there isn't however I desire to be vigilant that my take on how I meditate and how I refuse to deliberately meditate in certain ways, is not a cop out.
I am still exploring and THAT in the end is what it is all about.
I notice how I do Pilates and give loving thanks to my body, (one of your older post had me do that, Jan) and I remind myself that that is also a form of meditating so I do not feel so much left out :)
So lots of love to everybody here to our commitment to peace.
Love Wilma

Jan January 12, 2010 4:45 PM  

Caroline,
I appreciate your candor and your noticing of a habit that you would like to change. This is one of the amazing benefits of meditation. Somehow, we begin to get more clear about our thoughts and emotions when they arise. It seems to me that if you just keep doing what you are doing, noticing when emotion arises and the thoughts that follow, take a breath, or two or more. Count to 10, literally, just keep your silence, the emotion will ease. An emotion will only last 90 seconds. After that it is our storyline that keeps it going. I will be talking about this on the blog this week. :-) Congrats on this big breakthrough!

Stacy,
Very good news. I think when you are a busy mom you do have to find your "space" when you can. Sometimes it takes being creative. I used to find mine in the tub when my kids were little. That was the best private place I could figure out where I wouldn't be interrupted. I did a lot of deep breathing in the bathtub for many years! Kudos to you for finding yours....

Jan January 12, 2010 4:51 PM  

Carolynn,
Thank you for sharing this technique with us. I, too, love the ocean. The waves can be mesmerizing. To bring them into a conscious breathing practice is marvelous!

Darla,
Sounds like things are going well for you too! We will be exploring walking meditation here in the next couple of weeks. I love the practice and find it very centering. Check out Thich Nhat Hanh's tiny book, "Long Road Turns to Joy." It is the definitive guide to walking meditation.

Karmacoy,
Please read what I said to Caroline above. It sounds like both of you are having new clarity about emotions. Perfect! Now to develop a new relationship with them and make new choices. Healthier, calmer choices. :-) You can. One breath, one choice at a time.

Jan January 12, 2010 4:54 PM  

Wilma,
From everything you share it sounds as if much of your daily life is spent in mindfulness, which is actually a form of meditation. It is bringing meditative awareness to all that we do, especially ordinary tasks. Did you ever read "Peace is Every Step" by Thich Nhat Hanh? This is exactly what he is talking about. How we bring meditative, one-pointed awareness, to everything we do. When we can do that, peace is present, busy mind is gone, wonder and gratitude well up. :-) Understanding and compassion arrive too.

Diana Lang January 12, 2010 5:19 PM  

What a lively group you all are! And Jan, you are a fine facilitator, gentle and clear. It's been fun reading everyone's comments and thoughts on meditation.
love, Diana

Rochelle January 12, 2010 5:22 PM  

I guess I will have to learn patience -- I am so eager to have my mind, heart, and world open up with meditation that I want IT ALL NOW! But, I will wait...for a few more days anyway. ;->

Julie G January 12, 2010 6:43 PM  

I love that statement too, Jan, "Meditation is what we are at our center anyway. It is simply a returning to ourselves" our TRUEST selves, right?

The longer I stay in meditation, the more the ego thoughts leave me and the spirit thoughts come in. It's a feeling of total surrender just like in a deep sleep.
It's there (in dreams and in mediation) that I feel "God breathing me" and thinking me and guiding me. I have to completely let go of me for this to happen. It's an out-of-body experience for me. I can't even feel the chair I'm sitting in. I'm finding that it takes a bigger and bigger distraction of some kind to bring me back.

Diana, thank you for sharing your wisdom here. I love the words:

your mind will open
your heart will open
your world will open

so much unfolding is possible, and is happening!

Laura Hegfield January 12, 2010 6:43 PM  

i love this Diane and Jan..."self-realization is simply realizing the self" ...it is that simple looking at our selves and really learning who we are moment to moment...learning to love who we are in our wholeness, moment to moment. Beautiful.

Jan my meditation is happening daily, sometimes nightly too. I don't want to say it has been good or bad...it just is. And that I can say is good.

Thank you so much for bringing us all together in this sacred community my friend.

gentle steps,
Laura

Jan January 12, 2010 8:10 PM  

Hi Diana,
Thanks for stopping by! I shared your "new year" meditation session here and will put a link on the main page tomorrow. With my post. Listened to it. Loved it! We appreciate your support and cheering us on. We are now 92 participants strong. Wow!

Rochelle,
You are too funny. :-) Patience is a virtue you know, in fact, one of the mainstays of spiritual practice. Patience, in fact, is the antidote to anger....Believe, breathe and be well!

Jan January 12, 2010 8:13 PM  

Julie,
Your meditation session definitely sound like they have deepened using the "God is breathing me," mantra/prayer. May a happy heart be yours.

Laura,
I resonate completely with what you share here. My meditation sessions just "are" and I am being fine with that. In fact, the being fine is bringing me much happiness. :-) Funny how that works. (LOL)

Sharon January 12, 2010 11:23 PM  

I am following along and reading comments every day. I start and end each day consciously breathing, calming my mind, and giving thanks. Since day one I have had the feeling that I am returning to myself and that meditation is the next step in a journey that started more than two years ago. I am content to take one step at a time.

sema January 13, 2010 8:11 AM  

Hi jan ,
You have inspired me a lot and though I don't comment everyday I never miss a day from coming over here to get my motivation by reading your post and also the comments by other bloggers.
I have created a squidoo lens 28-Day Meditation Challenge!Day one to Day seven! to record the motivation,inspiration and resources in one place for easy recollection .Please do visit and give your comments.
Blessings for abundance,
sema

Judie January 13, 2010 9:36 AM  

I'm in too...Had re/started an effort to get on the cushion daily the first of the year; then a friend passed on this link. Great support. The Mala beads day got me routing around to find my grandmother's rosaries longed tucked away to use instead. There are also 109 beads!
Thanks.

Jan January 13, 2010 9:51 AM  

Sharon,
This is a beautiful accounting of your journey. It speaks of gentleness and compassion to self. May your unfolding practice continue to be blessed!

Sema,
I had no idea what a Squidoo lens was. Oh, my what a surprise and a great delight. Thank you for creating this! I am happy to know that the Challenge is speaking to your life...Blessings!

Judie,
Welcome! Happy you are here and beginning again. :-) We always begin again. Yes, Rosaries and Malas are pretty much the same, even with the number of beads. Many spiritual traditions have overlapping practices...

cherokeefox January 13, 2010 1:32 PM  

Yes, even if you already know "to just do it"...it is always helpful to hear someone else say it. I have to constatnly keep myself in check. There is just too much going on in my head everyday...even when I don't have anything major happening.

Jan January 13, 2010 8:15 PM  

Liz,
Sometimes, yes, we have to push through. That is why meditation is called "spiritual practice" or a "spiritual discipline." It does take some oomph to move through messages or distractions. Breathe on!

debbie January 24, 2010 3:29 PM  
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